It occurs to me that each year that the goals or resolutions I struggle (or fail) with keeping are the ones I never wanted to do in the first place. They are the accomplishments or actions I have seen in others that I admire and so I want to admire them in myself as well.
It is so important to really learn and understand who yourself first. It is also an endless journey. Once you begin a deeper understanding of yourself, you can more easily have compassion for yourself and grow into the person you want to be, without judgment and blame, but with acceptance and appreciation for who you are created to be.